Some Respect

Some Respect

Many wise souls have said “risk everything in life but your reputation”. Respect is everything. When is the last time you showed someone some respect? And when is the last time someone showed you some respect? Well, the tables are about to turn. This one never fails to get people smiling, and talking. Use it wisely, and respect the Coolfidence.

Guide lines

Use the SOME RESPECT card that you’ve made yourself, or handwritten on the back of your business card.

Or use the pro version laminated card from the Coolfidence institute. Just make sure it’s bold and easily readable.

Conceal it in an easy to reach spot such as a pocket or wallet.

Having more than one card available is even better.

Engage the person or small group that you’re connecting with.


Sometimes people don’t value you enough, don’t you agree? No respect.
But not us, we’ve got respect for each other right?

Reach into pocket for card.


In fact, I want to give you something right now …

Take a few moments to reveal the surprise. Pull out the card and show it clearly.


I’m showing you some respect. 
How’s that make you feel?

Hand card to person.


Take it, do you mind showing it to me?
Now we’ve both shown each other respect, what a great day.

Some extra lines you can try throughout

  • Tell everyone back at your office where you always get the most respect.
  • Don’t tell me I never show you respect.
  • I’ll also even respect you in the morning.
  • Man, if Rodney Dangerfield was still around… he could also finally get some respect.
  • Mimicking Aretha Franklin song: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, just gave you some for free.
  • Great job on that presentation, in fact, I wanted to give you something ... (reveal card).
  • If someone says something you don’t agree with and you want to make light of situation: Reveal the card to them after their statement then throw it behind you and say: I’ve just lost some respect for you.

Save the images to your mobile phone. You can also then show someone SOME RESPECT straight off your phone. Digital respect, at your fingertips.

Anticipated responses and retorts

Where did you learn this silly thing?

I will only tell you if you show me some respect too.

What else you got hiding there in your jacket pocket?

I can’t tell you just yet. Out of respect to you, and Coolfidence.

Can you show me something else?

Here, take a look (and then you pull out another piece of paper or a lamination with the words “SOMETHING ELSE” on it).
Good follow ups
When & where
When to use it
  • When you want to get someone to feel comfortable. This is good for putting people at ease and making them feel they can talk to you.
  • This is a good one-on-one tool for when you are leading someone in the office.
  • A very good device to use on friends. It gets people smiling and talking.
  • This could work if you are a school teacher. Your students will enjoy this and it will get them thinking out of the box.
Where to use it
  • office
  • internal team meetings
  • with friends
  • mentoring sessions
  • with new staff
  • at an exhibition stand
Getting ready
Items required
  • a jacket to store the prop
  • a permanent marker
  • a piece of paper (the back of your business card will do as well)
  • you can write “SOME RESPECT” on a piece of paper or a napkin or on the back of a business card.
  • the best way is to print out SOME RESPECT in a solid, thick, bold font, and then cut the paper into a strip and have it laminated – some good dimensions are 5 cm by 20 cm.
  • Conceal it in an easy to reach spot such as a pocket or wallet.
  • Having more than one card available is even better.
  • You can download to your phone any of the images at the top of this page and show SOME RESPECT to people on your mobile screen.
Training required
  • Practice concealing it and keep it hidden even when bringing it out.
  • Find the best moment to maximize the surprise.
Watch out (potential unexpected effects)
  • This is a fantastic tool to get a point across. And also, to show that respect is everything.
  • Don’t do this when your boss is screaming and shouting. And if you are the boss, then try not to scream and shout.
  • Don’t do this at the immigration counter an American airport. They won’t smile. And they may just take you to the back room.

type type

Do It Yourself (DIY)

material material

a piece of paper and a pen, or a computer and a printer

size size

small (should fit into your pants or jacket pocket)

durability durability

it is paper or a laminated strip – probably not good to put it in a washing machine when you wash your clothes

source source


time to impact time to impact

pretty much there and then

size of audience size of audience

this is best as a one-on-one tool

possible health risk possible health risk

don’t do this to police and security officials – they won’t appreciate it

reusable how many times you can use it

multiple times

training needed training needed


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I think it is really working for the business men.